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Information Gathering Templates: For PANS/PANDAS Conference 2025

As part of our preparation for the conference, I also developed three information-gathering templates (a huge thank you to Helen for her feedback and...

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What Is Diagnostic Overshadowing and Why Does It Matter?

Have you ever gone to the doctor with a concern, only to have it dismissed as ‘part of’ your disability, neurodivergence, or mental health diagnosis?...

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New School Year, Same Lunch Every Day

The new school year is here - new shoes, new teachers, new pencil case… and maybe, the exact same lunchbox as last year. Every. Single. Day....

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Understanding Food Choices Beyond ‘Picky Eating’: Medical Conditions and Their Impact on Eating Habits

Food choices and eating habits are often viewed through a behavioural lens, with labels like 'picky eating' commonly used to explain them. In my work, it’s...

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‘Slow Eaters’: Understanding and Supporting Different Paces

Eating slowly can sometimes be misunderstood. We live in a culture that often values speed and efficiency, even at mealtimes.  If you or someone you care for...

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“Who Decided This?” Listening to PDA Young People About School Disconnection

I recently spent time with a group of older primary and early secondary-aged young people and their parents. We were gathering to talk about self-care tasks in...

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Play First, Hygiene Later: Getting Comfortable with Washing

Let’s be honest: hygiene products can be weird. They bubble. They squirt. They smell like ‘mountain rain or ‘moonflower’. Some of them fizz, foam, or...

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Finding the Balance: Supporting PDAers Without Overloading Our Young People

We know that step-by-step charts, checklists and routines can feel especially tough for PDAers. These kinds of supports can come across as boring, overly rigid...

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How do I get my young person not to hold their bladder? with downloadable guide

Wee withholding, when someone avoids or delays urinating, can feel puzzling and frustrating. This is especially true if it starts after what has been toileting...

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Demanding Respect from PDAers in the School Setting: Why Hierarchy Backfires & What Builds True Connection Instead

It’s a phrase many of us have heard, or even said in the school setting: "They need to learn to respect adults." "They have to follow instructions, it’s...

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“How Do I Get Them to Shower?” Rethinking Hygiene Support in Care Roles

After running workshops in various care settings with staff who support disabled young people and adults, I noticed a common theme emerging - questions about...

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‘Same Food’ or ‘Safe Food’ and When Our Language Matters

When people use terms like same food or safe food, they’re often referring to someone’s favourite food—a food they have a strong emotional or sensory...

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More on Eating in Context: Understanding Food Preferences Without Pushing for Change

In a previous post 'Context Eating: Why We Prefer Specific Foods in Specific Settings', we explored how some young people and adults alike tend to eat certain...

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PDAers and Compliance: Understanding the Real Challenge

For those who do not yet understand the neurotype, PDAers are often described as defiant and always pushing back. This misconception can lead to frustration...

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Context Eating: Why We Prefer Specific Foods in Specific Situations

Some kids and adults may eat specific foods and in very specific contexts. This can be confusing and and even feel frustrating for parents and carers who see a...

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Rethinking Praise: Practical Strategies for Toileting Support

Every young person is different, and what feels supportive for one might not work for another. The following ideas offer a range of approaches so you can find...

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Questions to Ask Your Healthcare Provider About ADHD Medications

Deciding on ADHD medication is a significant step that you likely have put a lot of thought into and would benefit from open communication with your healthcare...

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Hypermobility & Ehlers Danlos & How They Affect Toileting

What are Ehlers Danlos & Hypermobility Syndrome? Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) is a group of genetic connective tissue disorders that affect the...

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Getting the Language Right about Autism

We know that language matters. Our word choice expresses ideas and meanings on the subjects we are speaking about. Therefore, our word choice when discussing...

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Received a New Medical Diagnosis? A Beginning List of Questions to Ask Your Care Provider

Receiving a new medical diagnosis can feel overwhelming, with so many questions and decisions to navigate. Having a prepared list of questions to ask your care...

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